Engaged

Well, it’s official, I’m now a newly engaged man!

Whew, all that worrying and planning and stress about how to proposed is finally over! It’s a big weight lifted off of your shoulders after it happens, especially when she says yes!

So, for all you about-to-be fiances (assuming your SO says “yes”) who want a perfect proposal, here are some tips:

#1) Don’t expect a perfect proposal

You are at the cusp of proving your companionship and on the verge of sealing the deal with your significant other. You have planned every little detail of what you want to do and what you might think your SO may react. Well, here’s some advice- don’t expect it to go the way you wanted to. I might be so bold as to say don’t even expect your plan to be executed perfectly! I know we all saw some awesome proposals, like the Portal proposal for you gamers out there (oh, how I wish my SO loved games as much as I do) or the photobooth proposal moments. But, let’s be honest, sometimes, we don’t have that kind of pull or the right charisma to pull it off. So, what do you do?

#2) Don’t make the proposal about others

The only one that should love the proposal is the one you are proposing to. Not your family, not your friends, not to impress anyone else. The one you need to impress is THE ONE. Look at your plans and ask yourself, “Is this really who WE are?”. Sometimes, we get carried away in the grandeur of it all that you don’t step back and say, “Wow, that really doesn’t relate to our relationship at all”. The whole point is that the proposal is about you two. Take time to reflect on the meaning of that and rearrange your plans, if need be.

#3) Try not to wait

There are some cases where this is impossible, but you should propose as soon as you possibly can. Granted, the guidelines I follow are a little demanding, but, after you meet your requirements for engagement, then, by all means, GO! Don’t make her (or him, for all you gutsy females!) wait! Even if you know for an absolute fact that they aren’t going anywhere, make them yours as soon as you can!

#3.5) Guidelines and general rules

Okay, this is more of a personal taste and it follows my upbringing, but it doesn’t hurt to follow these if you are thinking about proposing.

1) Be financially Stable

2) Make sure this is what you both want

3) Let your SO’s parents know! (Pa alam, my filipino brethren!)

These are all equally important and should be done BEFORE your proposal!

Finally- JUST GO AND DO IT!

I know I have had the nerves of a frightened child when time came to ask her, but I pushed through. It’s something that you should do, and it’s something your SO wants. Take into account everything here and know that you are on the way to a marriage date!

I hope all these tips help and that your Significant Other says a resounding “yes”!

Until next time everyone; I’ll be planning my wedding!